Confidence and Motivation
Confidence means several different things according to the Oxford Dictionary.
The feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something:
The state of feeling certain about the truth of something:
A feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities:
What we are concerned about here is the third definition – concentrating on the feeling of self assurance and the appreciation.
Self confidence is that aura of self assurance that leads to increased involvement and participation in all aspects of life.
How to Build Self Confidence
Self-confidence is something we are born with and we can rebuild by evaluating our experiences in a more positive light, looking at past experiences as an opportunity to learn or at skills as something we just haven’t accomplished yet. One way of building confidence is by changing our mind set from thinking, “we can’t do something” to “we can’t do something yet.” It is a simple mindset adjustment and it can be very empowering.
What we think about ourselves often appears to be a fact, when in fact it is just an opinion. Our thoughts are based on experiences we’ve had and how we interpreted these experiences have shaped our beliefs and motivations about ourselves. If these experiences have been negative, the chances are that our beliefs about ourselves will be negative too, which affects our self-confidence. Our task going forward is to re-assess our own thoughts on our experiences so we don’t consider experiences negative. This is called negative self talk.
How to Motivate Yourself
However, the stumbling block for many people is their lack of self-confidence. Not having confidence can limit a person’s potential, career choices and progression. If people aren’t confident they believe they can’t achieve their dream job or haven’t the skills to move up the corporate ladder. Lack of confidence is often based on very self-critical thinking, fear of failure or from not having developed the right skills but expecting to have them.
Here are some tips on improving your self-confidence in 2014 that will help expand your career opportunities:
· Change your thinking – focus on the positive and things you have done well not the negative. Write down one positive achievement every day, no matter how small and you will be surprised what you have achieved in a week. This is great to build happiness.
· If things haven’t gone to plan take it as an opportunity to learn from the mistakes. No one ever gets anywhere without making a few mistakes along the way.
Tips to build self confidence
· Don’t be afraid to fail. Many entrepreneurs have failed during their working lives and gone on to achieve great things. Think about Richard Branson. He has launched close to a 100 companies, many of which have failed. No one remembers these, only the successes.
· Ask people you respect what they think are your greatest strengths and then find ways to use those strengths more often. Be clear about your strengths and incorporate these into your work every day.
· Instead of thinking “I can’t” – think “I can’t yet”. Make this your mantra and say it to yourself every day.
· Challenge yourself to try something new. Find projects and assignments that give you an opportunity to use your strengths.
How to Stay Motivated in Life
· Fear of failure often stops us doing things, turn this on its head and make a commitment to do at least one thing you fear every month. This could be making a team presentation, attending a networking function alone or learning a new business skill.
· Don’t compare yourself to others. People are often tempted to compare themselves to colleagues or friends and think ‘I wish I was thinner, more successful etc., but what they fail to realize is the person who is thinner, might attend a gym three times a week and eat very sensibly. Often confidence we see in others is a result of a lot of hard work.
· A lack of confidence isn’t pervasive. People need to think about other areas of their lives where they do feel confident – they may be good a cook for example or good at sport. If this confidence was channelled into the workplace then it could have a very positive impact.
How to Motivate Yourself
· Think about where you want to go in 2014 and create an achievable plan with set goals. Make sure you regularly review these goals to keep on track for success. You can use an executive coach to help you formulate these goals.
· Have a positive attitude and remain upbeat, when challenges emerge. They have classes on it at Mindfulness Newcastle. People are drawn to positive people and this helps to build confidence in the workplace.
It leads naturally to a definition of self assurance.